How to keep your morale high during hard times

The most difficult thing is life is keeping my morale high. I have realized this years ago and even though I might forget it sometimes, life tends to remind it to me in the most natural way possible. By dragging me through the mud once in a while.

And it’s not easy once you get there. You feel alone in the struggle, you don’t want to talk to anyone about it because you don’t want to seem weak, or you just don’t want to bother people with your unimportant problems. And because very few people talk about it, it might even seem that they don’t struggle keeping their morale high.

But they do, everyone does. We’re all weak, have uncertainties, “unimportant” problems and desperate moment.  It’s just part of our human nature – we go up, we develop, we grow, we love…. and then we go a little bit down, we lose ground, we hit a plateau, we ignore.

And I feel that the world is not talking enough about this. Especially not in the media – human psychology is apparently not as important as whom the president with the funny haircut and compulsive character is going to threaten next. And not on social media – because for some reason we all decided that place is just for positing the positives of our lives.

But we should talk more about it, because this way we can be more prepared to deal with these situations. We would be able to accept them as a natural part of our existence.

Philosophers have been emphasizing this mantra for thousands of years: “know thyself”. Understanding the patterns that we’ve have been repeating for years will enable us to take control over them, come up with new reactions and eventually establish new patterns that will enable us to have a lighter, wiser attitude towards “negative” events.

I have been so deeply impressed by the book “Man’s search for meaning” by Viktor Frankl because this auto-biography exposed the extreme situation that enabled me to realize that it doesn’t matter that you are in a concentration camp (i.e. the negative circumstance that life throws at you), the only thing that matters is that you find the inner strength to share the little piece of bread you have with another human being in suffering, or your advice and words of encouragement, or have fun of the situation you find yourself in and can’t change, or even make friends with the guards to increase your chances of survival (i.e. How you process and respond to the external stimuli).

I’ve been so deeply impressed how this book’s story goes to the extremes of human experience in the outer environment, but also the the extremes of inner experiences and human psychology that I read it twice so far, and I recommend it whenever someone is searching for some sort of meaning in their life.

When your morale is low and the outer circumstances are not to your taste, or how you’ve anticipated, never forget this formula:

E + R = O
Event + Response = Outcome
Where “+” is the actual thinking time we take before responding, which is so crucial.
Always take your time. Time will enable you to come up with an appropriate response. Or alter the event. Both of which will change your outcome. So with this knowledge, never allow yourself to give in and always keep in mind the duality of life.
I’ll still be here to share my words of encouragement for a while, if you need them.

Let me know if this article was in any way useful to you. And please provide me with any useful critical feed-back if you wish.

 

Citius, Altius, Fortius.

Leonard Burcă

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